How To Improve Your Self Esteem
Self Esteem: The Highs and The Lows of it.
What a person experiences with low self esteem (typical characteristics)
- Clings to security and safety
- Addictions, failed relationships, physical abuse, self-sabotage, depression, anxiety, low feelings of personal worth
- Judging without mercy
- Feels guilty, usually from resentment and towards our caretakers
- Rationalizes counter-productive behavior
- Displaying defensiveness
- Obsessed with acceptance of others
- Makes same mistakes over and over
What a person experiences with high self esteem
- Seeks challenges and opportunity
- Understands the right to be happy, confident, worthy and act in the best interest of self and others
- Believes in themselves
- Life becomes enriched
- Open to love
- Sees self has a lovable person, feels natural for people to like them
- Lives life fully aware
- If something/someone comes along and that doesn’t fit them, they can reject or disown easily
- Understands the right to honor self, listen to own voice
- Likes self with faults and no faults
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Childhood Needs and Adult Neurosis
There are specific parent or caretaker provided needs essential to producing a healthy child with high self-regard, this is Dr. Branden’s list and I love it.
- To be cared for and protected
- To be touched, held, and caressed safely
- To be respected, loved, and valued
- To be shown interest, understanding and concern
- To be free to explore
- To express ideas, emotions, and concerns
- To be corrected justly, reasonably and intelligibly
1. Self-Awareness comes from being conscious of what it is you do to create the current situation you really don’t want to be in (yes you created that). What your need is and how you are “attempting” to fill it.
2. Self-Acceptance is saying, “Yes I created that.”
3. Self-Responsibility is moving from awareness to acceptance to action. Here is a ‘check’ list that integrates the steps:
(not in order of importance)
- Create a commitment to look deeply into your self, and to be open to learning
- Be willing to leave the family (of origin) so growth is possible
- To understand that change is natural, what if you decided not to change from age 10 to 15 years. Did you have the same social interests and friends as when you were 10 then at age 15?
- To recognize that as an adult you are the only one who can re-parent yourself and give yourself the things you didn’t get as a child.
- To feel empathy for the child (you), take the child’s side (your side)
- To see the child (you) as innocent, “you weren’t wrong to want to be loved, hugged, etc.”
- Get in touch with your creative, spontaneous part
- To understand it is okay to give all you need to yourself (because others can’t)
- Be truthful and sensitive
- To make amends to others if needed
- To be honest with self free from guilt/resentment
- To commit to the transformation process
4. Self Assertiveness is taking your new confident self out into the world and not compromising yourself for anyone or anything.
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